*..."there is nothing that can be done to unchange it. You can't make abusers apologize, & even if you could, the apology does not change what they did. The change has to come within the person who has been abused. That is the bottom line. You must make a decision to move on, let it go & live"....



* ~If you love where you are in your life (& I do), it's a waste of time & energy to hate where you've been. If you go on a journey and end up rolling down a mountain, falling off a ravine, being dragged by a swift-moving stream, get dumped off a waterfall & wake up to find yourself in a beautiful valley filled with warm sun, nurturing pools, abundant fruit & adoring friends - why waste time cursing the trip that brought you to Paradise?


This I totally get now.....




~You are under no obligation to forgive somebody who has never repented but you are under an obligation to your own self to let certain things 'go' so you can get on with your life. And there is a difference between letting go and forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a 2 party exercise:repentance means that they take responsibility, have remorse, try to repair it and not repeat it. When they do that you are under no obligation to forgive, but you can decide that it is unhealthy for you to keep harboring ill feelings & just get on with your life as a healthy, happy individual dealing with current realities out of the shadows of your past.




~Some of you will be able to handle the limitations, others of you would be better off with no contact. Don't jump into the deep end of the pool when you can't even tread water. If you can never get yourself to tread water, keep away from the pool or you will just keep filling your lungs water and your life will be a continuous experience of small emotional and psychological drownings.

It's as though your heart has a LOT FULL sign hanging over it.


She's talking to me..