Is another one of her sayings. It's really bad. Another one is "Get over it" & "Whatever" when shes done something that she shouldn't have. And they're not little things.
For my 14th Birthday she bought me a sewing course. Not because I liked to sew but because her new boyfriend (affair) ( ex-not-even-wife yet) (yeah work that out!) ran classes in the evenings. What a rub in the face to her sending me along, not fair. She also got this womans son to go pick me up afterwards, again.."I have your man haha". I only just realized these things over the past few days. Suffice to say, I did not really do very well with the sewing, because my heart was not in it at all, it was all purely a dig at the other woman & I was her pawn.
At our wedding, she wore white, and took great delight in seeing me getting annoyed at her and then tried to put me in my place, to not be 'rude' to my poor mum. They planned that day the look on her face said it all. The thing is though, she looked like a fat poodle.
She insisted that he give me away on my wedding day when i had my own Dad and even had I not It's me who chooses. So stupid me relented and it was him who came in the car with me and Dad took over as soon as we arrived. She still to this day says Dad was too gutless to do it so 'he' had to step in cos the look on my face was just devastation. HAhaha!!! She made all this up!
Not even, didn't happen, all fabricated.
She even insisted that my birth surname came in brackets after 'his' name on our wedding invitations ~ which hubby & I paid for.
Seriously, if she meets someone soon & goes travelling or better still to another country, it won't be a loss and if people didn't understand why I seem to have no time or respect for her then they will see it now. You can't keep giving it when it's never returned back, something will give somewhere along the line and give it has.
*She turned up to my work one day, ranting and raving because we'd had yet another argument at home that morning. Shows up at the back door & off she went.
*I moved out of home and into my parent-in-laws home over undone housework.I'd been working at the florist and it was a busy time so I was naturally sleeping in on my day off. She came into my room at around 9am and proceeded to tell me while I'm half asleep to do this, do that so & so will be arriving to stay & she wanted me to do it all by lunchtime. She got home & I was still doing it, she cracked the shits, went overboard/ becomes abusive as she normally does & I told her I was not taking that if she was going to speak to me like that. In the end I said "I'll go live with my boyfriend & his parents" to which she replied "Good". So off i went, asked if I could move in, to which FIL replied a yes to & my fish and I moved in that night. Looking back it's not good..
Dad rang me that night to see if I was ok and that he'd continue to pay mum child support for me until I turned 18 ( I was 17) just to keep things 'happy'. :/
*She lay in her bed all that afternoon crying and going on, mums husband kept saying to me "How can you hurt your mother so much?", then consoling her. She never even got out of that bed to hug me or say i love you, nothing .
*She was jealous of my hubbies (boyfriend at that time) mum who I would talk to her about telling her all the good things she could make or do, she was pretty jealous & made that obvious.
Dinner time! ♥
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